I don’t know if I am being a bit crazy or even if this will make any sense.
Example: I want to go and see a friend. DH is annoyed for what he perceives to be justified reasons. Gives me quite a bit of grief over it (sulking, saying I’m being selfish etc.). The details and the rights and wrongs of this isn’t the point, the problem is that DH will then make a grand gesture to help facilitate me going to see my friend. For example, buying an expensive bottle of wine to take with me, usually always something financial and never practical - as in helping with the DC - and will still be in a strop. So he would hand the wine over but would say something negative at the same time, like I would say ‘you shouldn’t have’ and he would say ‘there’s a lot I shouldn’t do’.... and then the following day when trying to unpick the ‘argument’ we had about it he will fall back on ‘but I bought you the wine to take so obviously I didn’t have a problem with you going’
I’m not sure if that even makes sense but this is something that happens a lot.
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Is there a name for this behaviour?
JulietteLeGall · 22/08/2020 23:45
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