I feel so silly for even asking this but I feel like I don't know which was is up. I recently had a baby with someone. I found out he was at least messaging other women when I was pregnant. It's been quite miserable since baby has been born.
He sat me down and told me he would like for us to work towards moving forward. I agreed we could at least be friends. I told him I wasn't interested in even being friends if he was still talking to other women. He initially agreed then told me I can't tell him who he can talk to. He agreed he wouldn't be flirting with these women???? And his focus is on us as a family. Previously to this he told me he feels sick to imagine me with another man, he doesn't want to lose me and wouldn't like me to talk to other men.
I recently went out to my friends birthday. No men involved,I commented on a friends post joking that we had found new boyfriends. A private joke about these old men that were trying to chat us up. When I got home he asked me about men I laughed and said yeah I've found one. He put his hands around my throat, laughing and not hurting me saying don't say those things. I was drunk so I laughed it off.
We had a long talk after this he said he was joking. But on another occasion he said when he's angry he gets physics he hasn't gotten physical with me yet. Now I feel like these are the steps to abuse. am I overreacting? He makes me feel like I make a big deal out of nothing
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ronamoaner · 21/08/2020 18:27
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