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Divorced and wanting posessions back from marital home

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mummytotwo1 Wed 19-Aug-20 20:05:40

Hi people, I'm at a loss on this one.

I divorced my husband 2 years ago, and moved out of the marital home we both owned. I have a lot of stuff still there that i would really like back (birth certificate, degree certificates, personal posessions and sentimental family stuff)

Ex refuses to allow me to have it back. He works from home and never leaves for a long enough period for me to be able to get in and out. I technically am within my rights to go in and get it, but it would need to be done while he'snot there, and I'd need to arrange a locksmith to gain entry. It's all very much dependant on him being out of the property as he will absolutley refuse me entry. Courts have failed to help, and the police can't really do a great deal as it's a civil matter.

Any ideas on how i could go about this?

It's been preying on my mind for a while now.

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nancybotwinbloom Wed 19-Aug-20 20:06:50

Following with interest

june2007 Wed 19-Aug-20 20:11:58

Do you have a friend who could get it for you art a mutually agreed time. Make a list of what you would like back. Or Ask him to take to mutual persons house for you to collect?

MoonahStone Wed 19-Aug-20 20:14:32

What was agreed legally as part of your divorce in the court order?

LottieBubble Wed 19-Aug-20 20:17:54

Send him a message and ask when you can fetch it, with a reasonable time frame for a reply. Can I fetch my stuff? Please let me know in the next week’ etc. If he says no or doesn’t reply, then call 101 and ask your police force for advice, some forces will meet you at your address whilst you fetch things to prevent a breach of the peace. As long as you still part own the property, you can force entry if needed ie with a locksmith without fear of prosecution. The second option would be to send the message adding that after X days if you cannot get your items back, you will need to report the items as stolen, then again call 101 to make the report.

NotaCoolMum Wed 19-Aug-20 20:18:19

I’d ring the police

MoonahStone Wed 19-Aug-20 20:20:38

Without an agreed list of his owns what I can't see how the police would agree be involved as surely it's your word against his. How frustrating for you OP.

mummytotwo1 Wed 19-Aug-20 20:24:57

I have repeatedly asked to arrange a time to collect belongings, and each time he has refused. I also made an attempt last year with a locksmith and ex refused to let us in. Police were not present. Unfortunatley, if he doesn't want me to enter he is not obliged to let me in. The only way is if he not in the property. I can then enter legally, and safely.

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MoonahStone Wed 19-Aug-20 20:27:19

How can you enter legally if he isn't there OP is this still your property?

mummytotwo1 Wed 19-Aug-20 20:29:24

yes, we both own the property

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fiveguy Wed 19-Aug-20 20:29:26

Who owns the property?

fiveguy Wed 19-Aug-20 20:29:45

X post

mummytotwo1 Wed 19-Aug-20 20:30:53

We both do.

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IndieTara Wed 19-Aug-20 20:31:41

Surely if you part own the property he cannot legally refuse you entry.

mummytotwo1 Wed 19-Aug-20 20:38:22

As he lives there, entry can not be forced if he does not agree to me entering.

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LottieBubble Wed 19-Aug-20 20:44:14

You might find this link useful- www.familylaw.co.uk/news_and_comment/what-rights-do-you-have-to-the-family-home-when-you-separate

Obviously it says seperated rather than divorced, but I think it covers both.l- also, I’m assuming you’re uk based so apologies if not.

Vodkacranberryplease Thu 20-Aug-20 02:03:40

Can you do something sneaky like get him out of the house under false pretences? Have someone ring pretending to need to meet him? I can't think of an exact scenario but could he be 'called in to a work meeting'?

What a prick. I hope he hasnt destroyed those documents. I should think it would be illegal to do so but still.

If he's home and he answers the door then you could get someone big wearing what looks like a uniform (not a police uniform!) to go with you, knock on the door and push it open to gain entry when he answers.

SueblueNZ Thu 20-Aug-20 02:34:47

Vodkacranberryplease

Can you do something sneaky like get him out of the house under false pretences? Have someone ring pretending to need to meet him? I can't think of an exact scenario but could he be 'called in to a work meeting'?

What a prick. I hope he hasnt destroyed those documents. I should think it would be illegal to do so but still.

If he's home and he answers the door then you could get someone big wearing what looks like a uniform (not a police uniform!) to go with you, knock on the door and push it open to gain entry when he answers.

Wearing a pretend uniform. Seriously?

BitOfFun Thu 20-Aug-20 02:55:12

Ideally a French Maid?

Personcalledjoy Thu 20-Aug-20 03:47:58

Could one of us arrange to go on a (fake) date with him for you? And ditch him as soon as you've got your stuff?

longtimecomin Thu 20-Aug-20 03:57:02

You should get the police to help, he's intimidating you so there's a domestic violence element to it. The police are really helpful with dv, now more than ever.

NotaCoolMum Thu 20-Aug-20 06:38:52

He’s also STEALING from you by not allowing you to collect your items.

FelicityPike Thu 20-Aug-20 06:49:30

Wasn’t this agreed during your divorce?
Maybe send a solicitors letter?

BlueBirdGreenFence Thu 20-Aug-20 07:22:38

Sorry but I'm not clear - do you both still legally own the house post divorce?

category12 Thu 20-Aug-20 07:48:49

Oh just pay for copies of your birth certificate and degree awards, what is the point of all this? If he's that much of a tool, he's probably chucked it all already. You might as well write it all off and move on. Sad about the sentimental things, but it's probably worth the price to be shot of him.

How come you still own the house jointly if you're divorced? Aren't the final settlements complete?

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