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ShrekandDonkey Wed 19-Aug-20 14:43:25

What would you think if you received this from an anonymous facebook profile? Obviously its between DH and this profile.
He says he was just trying to figure out who was messaging him so was being nice to them so they would confess. I think he's bullshitting.

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AnneLovesGilbert Wed 19-Aug-20 14:45:50

You’re right.

EL8888 Wed 19-Aug-20 14:47:39

He most definitely is bullshitting and insulting your intelligence

LivingMyBestLife2020 Wed 19-Aug-20 14:47:55

That is definitely an ex of some description. Sorry OP

FlosCampi Wed 19-Aug-20 14:48:24

Wow your DH must think you were born yesterday! He does sound a little cagey and abrupt but he's hardly shutting her down or saying "sorry you've got the wrong person" or "who is this?".

GettingItWrong Wed 19-Aug-20 14:48:52

Jesus. He expected you to believe that nonsense?

He's bullshitting.

wildcherries Wed 19-Aug-20 14:49:57

What a BS excuse. "Trying to be nice" 🙄

ShrekandDonkey Wed 19-Aug-20 14:51:30

Oh its definitely an ex of his. He said he received messages a few days ago from an anonymous profile saying they still had feelings for him etc so was trying to work out who it was. He knew full well who it was.

He says he told her he loves his wife and nothing will change that blah blah etc but of course he deleted the message thread.

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TellMeAStoryIllTellYouTheTruth Wed 19-Aug-20 14:52:35

If he "was trying to figure out who it was" why would he say it was his fault?!

I would assume the anonymous profile is the ex.

I'd also ask to receive the rest of the conversation screen shorted.

The problem now is your DH will have deleted it from his profile for sure.

TellMeAStoryIllTellYouTheTruth Wed 19-Aug-20 14:53:42

Ha! So if he said all that why can't he show you the messages to prove it? Why delete them? Sorry OP but he's a liar.

Buttercupsandroses Wed 19-Aug-20 14:53:47

Could you message the profile back and ask if there is any other messages

ShrekandDonkey Wed 19-Aug-20 14:59:10

I admit I asked his ex if it was her, not sure why as clearly she would say no. I juay don't understand why they sent it to me.

And I'd love to know what else was said! They sent me a message with the screenshot saying my husband was up for meeting up, which of course he denies.

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ShrekandDonkey Wed 19-Aug-20 14:59:53

This profile has now blocked me and DH so I can't ask for more proof.

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merryhouse Wed 19-Aug-20 15:02:07

That makes no sense whatsoever.

They ask "do you ever think of me?"

which means they're under the impression he knows who they are, so they obviously aren't refusing to say

so either he does know, or he didn't want to admit it when they first contacted him, which is ridiculous (^new phone, who is this?^ is pretty standard surely)

and if he doesn't want to offend them even though he hasn't spoken to them for ages then he really shouldn't be lying and pretending he thinks about them with regrets because that's DISRESPECTFUL

... so yeah, sorry. flowers

Pobblebonk Wed 19-Aug-20 15:03:38

Ask your husband to show you confirmation that he has blocked her.

achillesratty Wed 19-Aug-20 15:06:16

One of them clearly references "us", so they obviously know each other.

He must think you will believe any old crap. Hard faced that.

achillesratty Wed 19-Aug-20 15:07:03

Twat! I hate autocorrect.

diddl Wed 19-Aug-20 15:08:45

"saying they still had feelings for him etc so was trying to work out who it was."

Why would he care?

It would just be an ex, what difference who?

GreenDays557 Wed 19-Aug-20 15:09:46

God, that woman tried it on with your husband and then sent you that? The only thing I would say is she seems angry, maybe your husband did tell her he loved you?

I think if he had said he would have been up for meeting , they would have sent THAT screenshot.

TenDays Wed 19-Aug-20 15:14:37

I'd be wondering who's sent it to the OP and why.

It has caused trouble, which must have been the intention, but to what end? Is the sender the person who was chatting with the OP's DH?
If this person wants to resume contact with him why let his DW know?

Or is it a warning to her, perhaps from partner of the DH's ex?

It's all a bit Dangerous Liaisons, isn't it!

ShrekandDonkey Wed 19-Aug-20 15:19:23

@Greendays thats what DH says. That she must have sent this to me because he rejected her advances he says they never confirmed who they were but plenty of clues and he asked them something only they could know (which weirdly they only got partly right). He also says there would be more screenshots sent to me if he did agree to meet which is fair enough.

The kick in the teeth though was that this was all done on our anniversary!

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Diceroll Wed 19-Aug-20 15:21:08

Of course he is bullshitting.

TellMeAStoryIllTellYouTheTruth Wed 19-Aug-20 15:24:21

Thing is OP - why has HE deleted the messages then?

GreenDays557 Wed 19-Aug-20 15:24:35

I think he is bullshitting a bit as well, but it is possible he was just enjoying a bit of an ego rub and stopped things just after that, the woman didn't take the rejection well and lashed out at you.

It's so unfair to do that to you. And on your anniversary. I'm sorry.

netflixismysidehustle Wed 19-Aug-20 15:26:29

He is full of shit.

He could have easily asked directly or used something that only certain exes would understand eg "I think of you each time I hear X" or "I've not been back to Y since we went together"

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