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Brom29 · 17/08/2020 21:58

Hello,
I hoped someone could help. I haven’t posted on here before, so I’m nervous but I’m at a loss.
I’m still in love with my ex. We broke up a year ago and he’s finally gone public 11 months on with his new partner. He looks so happy. It’s hard as it’s in my old home with him of 3 years. He has lost all trace of me ever existing in the process, but told me he knows losing me will hit him one day..he’s so manipulative and rang my mum several times to tell her it’s a shame we don’t talk, how he worshipped me etc.
I don’t know how to mentally prepare for her to be the one, potentially him get married, have a family and her move in.
I go through moments where I just can’t sleep, eat etc. He never loved me, I think he played a good game and I don’t know how to accept he chose her or it feels that way

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PhannyPharts · 18/08/2020 08:50

Its hard, there's no way to avoid the pain, you kind of have to wade through it and process it as best you can. But, keep busy, plan things for yourself, talk to friends. It will grow easier, it really will. It takes time and being kind to yourself.

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Brom29 · 18/08/2020 09:24

Thank you. I just can’t eat at the moment and I’m a stone and a half down. After 6 years, I can’t believe he just removed everything to show I existed and looks so happy

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Holyrivolli · 18/08/2020 10:24

Do you have children with him? If not, cut all ties/ links so you don’t have to find out what he’s up to.

If you do have children then it makes it more complicated but you don’t need to have a play by play view of his life.

When you say he’s removed any trace of you existing - what do you mean? People don’t normally talk about or show evidence of their exes in their lives.

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Brom29 · 18/08/2020 11:23

Sorry I meant every single photo from our years together. It’s strange as his ex before me, he wouldn’t ever get rid of for me. But he left her So maybe different. It just hurts to see it all.
I have blocked him now @Holyrivolli I just feel so upset. I could be getting so upset and depressed over something which lasts a month or lasts forever

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