I divorced my DD's dad around 10 years ago now, he remarried and his wife was extremely abusive and destructive to DD's relationship with her dad (she was 9 when they met) and did all in her power to destroy it and succeeded quite well. They had 3 children together and have now split for what appears to be the final time just before lockdown. Mine and exh relationship had disintegrated to nothing also. Co-parenting was impossible without being accused of having an affair etc. Despite the face that 1/ I divorced him and 2/ I am remarried happily.
Anyway our DD is about to go to uni and recently we have been able to get along cordially. My DH is mostly ok with this, although he has been stepdad to DD for 6 years and hates the way she has been treated - he conceeds that she still wants a relationship with her dad and keeps out of it fairly well naturedly. DD is keen to rebuild with her dad and him with her. She asked me to take her to her dads holiday lodge today for a visit which I did with DH's knowledge and blessing. However, when we returned he kicked off, that he had been bored all day that he doesnt know anyone else who'd be OK with their wife spending an afternoon with their ex.
The fact is, exh soon to be exw was so vile to both me and DD and worked really hard to ruin DD's time with her dad, I do bend over backwards to facilitate it now. I still have 'familial' feelings for exh as the father of my only child but I'm in no way interested in him, I just want to raise our DD in peace.
I've apologised to DH for his upset but is there anything else I should do? Was I out of order?
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Gilda152 · 17/08/2020 00:06
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