I'm in the tentative stages of perhaps reconciling with ex who I was with for 18 months. We are late 40s and early fifties. Both have a child each. Both have work and exes and contact arrangements. Live an hour apart.
One of the main things I realise that split us up was not being able to see what our relationship could look like. More for him but I realise now that perhaps it was an issue for me too but came out differently.
He struggles with wanting to see me more. I can't see him moving and I wouldn't think it right to uproot my son away from his dad either. So I think if we do try again, this won't go away. I also can't necessarily imagine living together. As he's pointed out, we are very different in our households. Maybe when kids are grown but that's 10 years away.
Has anyone happily worked out an apart/together arrangement? Want to be able to picture how it could be in a positive way. I'm feeling worried tonight that if we reconcile then I'm just going to end up trying to get over him yet again and it's been such a hard journey to this point.
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peppermintteadrinker · 15/08/2020 19:34
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