My DH who is 68 but fit, healthy and still working has had a subtle personality change. There is nothing nasty or distressing about his behaviour other than a very disconcerting feeling that he isn't quite himself.
I can only describe it as him becoming more 'jolly' and more talkative. He keeps making jokes and being upbeat. And pointing things out to me, almost like a toddler. If we're driving and he sees cows in a field, he's pointing at them and saying cows ... and describing them in detail.
It's all a bit odd. As I say, nothing nasty at all and perfectly reasonable behaviour but just not like him. Not that he was miserable before, so the change is fairly subtle but enough to make me uncomfortable.
Examples of chatiness include things like when we were sitting in a restaurant him suddenly asking me where he thought all the people were from. I made a general not sure, but they're clearly tourists response but he seemed to genuinely need to know where from...we eat at this local restaurant about once a week. Never has he wondered where people are from...
And the other night, we watched a film and at the end he launched into a talk about how amazing people who make films are... they can pan in, pan out, cut scenes, add things in ... all very bemusing when you've regularly watched films with someone for years. When I'd asked him if he'd wanted to watch a film I got an immediate, energetic YES! THAT WOULD BE GREAT! Rather than his usual response of yes good plan or ok.
Getting up this morning as I needed to sort something out. I said I was reluctantly getting up to be met with an energetic 'rise and shine, time to move!'. He's never ever said anything like this before. He wasn't taking the piss and seemed confused when I mentioned it.
So many more examples but he just feels ... different. Nothing I can criticise him for as it's all perfectly reasonable but so strange as it's not him. It almost feels like I'm someone he doesn't know very well and is trying to impress but we just end up arguing as I'm trying to drive and he's banging on about bloody cows.
Nothing has changed to explain his sudden happiness. I bounce between worrying its the start of dementia or an affair 🤷‍♀️ . Or maybe just old age but stereotypically I'd expect grumpiness not an odd jolly enthusiasm for life. And we've been working from home together for 5 months now. I don't see how he'd have suddenly started an affair?!
What would you think? Illness? Affair? He's just suddenly happy?
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Affair or dementia or something else?!
Rainbowcoffee · 15/08/2020 18:30
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