I’m having a lot of trouble figuring out whether I need to leave my marriage (5 years, 1 DC 3).
Relationship really went downhill when I was pregnant, I had prenatal depression, whilst I was unwell with this he revealed that he thought he was a sex addict then booked (but didn’t attend) appointment with escort of some sort. Big regret, very sorry, lots of crying, forgave him and did my best to get over it. Baby arrived and he just wasn’t prepared, struggled with me not being available and needing his support, but we muddled through, both had therapy and I thought we’d got past it. By the beginning of this year things were really good and we were thinking of trying for dc2.
Long story short, he revealed to me recently that whilst dc was a baby he had a bunch of interactions with cam girls and then when she was 1 he booked (but again says he didn’t go to) more escort appointments.
He has frequent bouts of depression and anxiety that leave him unable to function for days at a time. Is on medication for this but it’s still happening.
I feel like since his latest revelation I’ve been through every emotion but what I’m feeling more and more is that I just cannot be arsed with the relationship any more. I don’t feel massively compassionate towards him even when he’s unwell - in fact I just feel irritated. But also I don’t hate him. We could be friends. I just don’t really want to fight for our relationship any more. should I though? If we get along ok? Does anyone come back from this?
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At what point do we throw in the towel?
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Yawnyprawn · 15/08/2020 15:40
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