2 years ago me and my wife bought a house which was in need of a lot of work. We had already done one up but this one was in far worse state. It's in a great area with a lot of potential.. we saw that it could be a dream home.
We started chipping away at it, then did a major extension last year which was a lot of stress. There is still lots to do but with a bit of a push I can sort of see an end. But this is where the disagreements start..
My view is head down, work hard for another three or four months and it will be done. Living here isint pleasant as there is dust everywhere. So a few more months to pain. My wife on the other hand believes that life is passing her by and that we should do less work but spread it out over three of four years.
I get very anxious and stressed about how much there is to do. So much that I want to prioritise work on say going on holiday or going out. I'm not saying never take a break, but sacrifice needs to be made.
I think we both know it was more work than we ever imagined. But we made a joint decision to buy it, so I feel we both need to accept digging ourselfs out. She has started just going off and doing her own thing and says she will live her life without me. I stay and do the work.... but I've grown resentful.
AIBU..its driving us apart. I'm not saying she doesnt chip in, she does. We just have a fundamental difference in approach. Aside from getting trades in (which we do when we have the money)... what can I do....
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NorthOfTheRiver · 14/08/2020 23:48
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