I work with someone who I share a lot of interests with. We laugh a lot together and he has joined me and dp on a few days out we have had. (Mostly before lockdown) Let's call him Ben.
Dp isn't keen on Ben, I don't think he's jealous of our friendship, he just isn't into the same things and they are two quite different people. He has said he would rather we do things as a couple and if me and Ben wanted to go somewhere another time then we should do that.
Problem is I have started having feelings for Ben and it's making things complicated. I find he is easier to talk to than dp and we have so much in common. I love dp and do not want to leave him so I feel I need to back off from the friendship. I find myself thinking about Ben when he's not around, but not dp when I'm with Ben.
I don't knows if this will be possible without hurting bens feelings. I can't talk to dp about it as if it was the other way round I wouldn't be too happy about it.
What can I say without upsetting anyone?
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He wants to be friends but It will feel awkward
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FluffyBandanna · 13/08/2020 08:47
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