What would you do if your partner never wanted to be intimate with you?
Only ever wanted to be intimate when it was solely to procreate
Resulting in being intimate no more than a handful of times in a 6 yr relationship
Never got undressed/dressed in front of you and would exit the room, if you were to also get changed or avoid the bathroom when you were in the shower clearly to avoid any sexual tension.
Never made any kind of conversation with you, and barely made eye contact so most days just resulting in 'hi, byes ' whilst you looked after the kids
When you do attempt to get intimate he makes excuses like 'did you hear that noise , let me go check it out' and goes out the room
As this is what is happening in my relationship and It's really saddening
I've asked him several times why he is avoiding it and he will say things like ' it was because you wasn't wearing lingerie before undressing or because he isn't turned on by pregnant women, or simply he doesn't know what time I'm talking about
But will hear me cry myself to sleep about it most nights and would rather pretend to be asleep and not hear a thing
How would this make you feel if you were in a relationship like this ,and if you were what would you do?
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What would you do if your partner....
Skysky1 · 12/08/2020 18:11
Sorry to hear you’re dealing with this.
It isn’t right, normal or ok. But you know that, otherwise you wouldn’t have poster.
If you’ve attempted to communicate in about this huge issue during the last 6 years, you’ve exhausted all possibilities and it’s time to seriously consider ending the relationship.
It isn’t healthy for you, or him.
You can’t fix him. Whatever is going on.
Aim to get to a point whereby you feel confident saying: if you are not prepared to communicate about this issue, I am no longer prepared to be in the relationship, I want a divorce.
Oh that sounds awful OP
I don't think it matters as such what his issue is - gay, asexual, whatever. It matters that he doesn't want to try. Living like this will destroy you and you don't want to be teaching your kids that this is what a relationship looks like. If it was me, I'd leave. Easy to say, much harder to do I know. But I really hope you do do it.
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