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Is there anyone else out there that doesn't go anywhere with their other half?

(11 Posts)
whoops Tue 02-Oct-07 22:03:40

I can't remember the last time that dh & I went out on our own together. We had a night in a hotel in May for our wedding aniversary but didn't actually go out.
Am I justified in being p'd off that we never do anything?
(I can't remember the last time we actually did anything as a family either )

granarybeck Tue 02-Oct-07 22:07:29

We do more as a family than we do together, partly due to lack of babysitters. Perhaps depends on age of dcs.

I guess whether you should be p'd off depends on reasons why you don't or how much you mind (though i guess you do mind if are posting this). Sometimes I think is easy to get out of habit of doing things together, and hard when busy etc, weeks go by,..

brimfull Tue 02-Oct-07 22:08:35

yes we rarely go out on our own,despite having a resident babysitter(dd)
Mainly because dh gets up early,around 4:45 some mornings.He goes to bed about 9ish.It does piss me off.

He also has been playing golf on his days off lately which I moaned about today,he says the weather will stop that soon.So the thought of a day with me won'thmm

We do go to dinner parties regularly and have them ourselves so that takes up a weekend.

harleyweendemon Tue 02-Oct-07 22:10:49

i go out with my mates. its much more fun grin

we go out as a family on weekend afternoons sometimes.
we dont have anybody who will babysit though, except for birthdays.

Tortington Tue 02-Oct-07 22:12:35

when we had copius amounts of family around us we went on the piss seperately as at the time i thought nothing more boring than going out with himself and taking about kids, work.... yawn

since we moved i had no option - either that or solitary confinement - so we do go out - and i get pissed and we play pool - the one thing we both really like and are goodish at.

dh and i had a fuckfest at a travel lodge recently on our way back from a long journey - we must do it again.

so yes i think you have a right to be pissed off - but i think relying on him as your only source of soical entertainment is unfair ( if you do am not saying you do)

whoops Tue 02-Oct-07 22:13:54

I get to go out with my mates, but I would like for him to say yes we'll go and see that film etc. Babysitters aren't a problem and he won't meet any of my friends and their husbands even though we have had invites as a couple but I usually end up going on my own

harleyweendemon Tue 02-Oct-07 22:21:31

oh i hate going out in couples. even when dh and i do get to go out together we usually end up at opposite ends of the bar with different people

PregnantGrrrl Wed 03-Oct-07 09:52:47

do you try and organise a night out just the two of you, or only encourage him to go out with your friends etc?

spookykitty Wed 03-Oct-07 09:56:37

We have never had a proper night out together since the DDs were born, I think we have been ot the pictures about 3 times together for a few hours. We don't have babysitters so that's it, does get to us a lot but thats the way it is when you don't get any family support.

We do things every weekend as a family though.

themildmanneredaxemurderer Wed 03-Oct-07 10:04:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lovecat Wed 03-Oct-07 13:50:14

We very rarely have nights out as a couple, as it's hard to get babysitters. I'm a lot more outgoing than the OH, so I tend to go out with my friends while he watches football - this is a pattern that has carried on from long before dd's arrival.

I also work pt, so dd & I can go away to visit friends and rellies oop north for long weekends - again, he loves this as he gets to lie in, read books and watch crap tv.

However, we went away for 1 night in June for my birthday, first time both of us had been away from dd overnight and - oh wow! It was soooo nice to reconnect with each other - kind of like 'oh, yeah, I remember why I like you now!' and a fuckfest (love that phrase!) duly commenced. Fab.

I wouldn't want or expect the OH to be my social life, but it is nice to get to be with him as my bloke (as opposed to dd's dad) occasionally. Esp. as newer friends aren't certain of his actual existence.... So I don't think you're entirely unreasonable - definitely push for more family time!

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