I’ve been with DP for 2 years and at first he made me feel the centre of everything. Now the honeymoon period has gone, I’m left feeling really insecure about everything. I’m beginning to wonder if I’m just too sensitive to be in a relationship.
How do I toughen myself a bit? The things I get sensitive over are probably trivial to everyone else. I hope I don’t get flamed for discussing them here... please go easy.
Here are examples of my feeling sensitive. He has a second home where he sometimes lived with his ex wife and every time I come across something belonging to her, I feel really sad and upset. Her prescriptions. Her old diary. Her forms for stuff. He is happy for me to chuck stuff but I just feel odd. He has had evidence of past “dates” he brought here, e.g. a book that a previous gf wrote. A business card. Some massage oil. Someone else’s sanitary stuff (he has generously donated the house for rental to a family, could be theirs). It makes me feel a bit like a spare part. I’m not that special at all... he’s brought other women here.
It’s like he’s tough and tough with emotions, but I am sensitive with mine.
I could give other examples, but it extends to FB and instagram. He uses his accounts for photography, so won’t put photos of us together - although tbf not that many of himself, either. He won’t put that he is in a relationship (although I can live with this, neither do I!). I was upset before because it looks like he’s on holiday by himself! He has tagged me into some shots, where he’s thanking me for being the driver, or he acknowledged my telling him about things.
Another thing I find upsetting is that has a female “admirer” who likes his every single photo. I mean every single one. Maybe she has a bot, but it’s a bit much. She’s a photographer/model/actress and I expect he messages her to say how wonderful she looks.
I am a mass of insecurity in this relationship. How do I overcome this? Is it indication of the relationship not working? I don’t want to leave him as otherwise, we get on well together. It’s also hard during the weeks when we are apart (we don’t live together).
Does anyone else get like me?
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Beginning to think I’m too sensitive for this relationship
AirCloud · 10/08/2020 04:56
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