Page 7 | Give me strength to leave her next week

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Jack1964 Mon 10-Aug-20 03:09:23

Ok I have posted on here before under finally leaving my wife.
The short of my story is as follows.
Married 30 yrs, 2 children all grown up one in last year of college .
Relatively well off 2 homes and extra savings.
My wife is the controlling type always gets her way , looks after all savings and always makes the decisions .
We have a very successful business together of which I’m the main breadwinner.
Wife had a emotional affair last year and was ready to meet up with the man when I was outa town, well he broke it off last minute , the texts and photos sent to each other were rather graphic.
I have rented a place for a year starting Aug 1st 2020
I am planning on moving out on Aug 16 once my son goes back to college (I will be flying over there on the 28th Aug and I will take him out and explain our separation)
We did do some counseling after her affair but if truth be told I’ve probably wanted to leave this marriage for the last 10 years.
Anyway I just would like to keep my resolve on the 16th and finally leave her but I’m afraid it’s going to be to difficult as her behavior has become very nice and calm of late.
What can I do to give myself that final push out the door.

Thanks for reading

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Jack1964 Mon 12-Oct-20 03:25:26

So I left my wife 2 weeks ago.
We seem to be working amicably together in our joint business.
My wife is wanting reconciliation and is begging me to come back home.
She is using every trick in the book.
I feel so sorry for her but I really don’t want to go back.
I don’t want to hurt her anymore

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AlwaysCheddar Mon 12-Oct-20 06:23:36

Have you seen a solicitor yet? Sounds like she will get very angry and lash out when she realises you’re not going back.

SecondStageIgnition Mon 12-Oct-20 08:59:46

You sound like a good person.

Maybe if you describe the tricks she is using then we might be able to give you advice.

LemmysAceCard Mon 12-Oct-20 11:10:48

Jack1964

So I left my wife 2 weeks ago.
We seem to be working amicably together in our joint business.
My wife is wanting reconciliation and is begging me to come back home.
She is using every trick in the book.
I feel so sorry for her but I really don’t want to go back.
I don’t want to hurt her anymore

Please dont go back to her. Feeling sorry for her and not wanting to hurt her are not valid reasons for you to go back.

You need to be strong and remember that this is what you want, you cant live a pretence by going back when you dont love her.

She will get over this, it will take some time but she will.

Good luck OP

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