Will try not to drip feed. My ex and I separated six years ago, divorced two years ago. Have 2 children. He is autistic, diagnosed after we split up. Messy break up but these days we get on okay and co-parent pretty effectively.
In recent months I had started to reconsider whether we should try again. We are both different people to when we split up, more mature, more sensible. It would be a hell of a lot of work but maybe it would be worth a try. I haven't dated anyone recently and he hadn't mentioned dating anyone.
So I sent him an email (because that's usually the best way to bring up new topics with him, he finds it easier to process things that way) just saying how would he feel about opening a discussion on possibly reconciling.
Anyway, he took about a week to reply and basically he said 'Maybe. But I'm kind of seeing someone, it's not serious but I can't really think about it now.' And I don't get it. As far as I'm concerned, if he's seeing someone, however serious or not serious, he's off limits so that's that but it is bugging me that he didn't just say no. Am I missing something?
We each have our own homes and are settled and I made it clear I was opening a discussion, not inviting him back in to my home or bed. So I don't think he's trying to get the best of both worlds. Or is he just being literal in that he isn't saying it's never a possibility but it isn't now?
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I don't get why he didn't just say no?
bathsh3ba · 08/08/2020 10:14
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