Bit of back story. My husband was emotionally and mentally very abusive. He was getting worse after our daughter was born. He was acting very horrible towards me and to save our daughter watching her mum crying everyday I decided to leave. Daughter was 3 at the time.
It was really hard as my husband was absolutely mad at me for leaving. I thought that this would be the end of it but I didn’t at the time realise that he would just continue his emotional abuse towards me, it kind of got worse, very obvious.
Anyway I had some support at the time and it was pretty unanimous that I should stop unsupervised contact due to his behaviour towards us both. He wouldn’t agree to this, a contact Centre was set up but he refused to go.
So now it’s been a year since he has seen her. He wants it on his terms or nothing at all. I wanted it arranged so that he had no access to me when seeing her and so that he was watched as he was addicted to weed and she was coming home saying odd things like “daddy doesn’t want anyone to love you” etc etc.
What is he doing, does he not love her at all?
My solicitor has said he is free to apply for court ordered access and to be prepared he will get access. But he hasn’t, does he not want to go to court and hear what I will tell them about him? He will not be able to look like the victim then as I have a lot of evidence! I read they like to win and will this be a sign of submission as he will have to obey the court?
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Husband hasn’t seen his daughter for almost a year, what’s going on?
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Mummyofone83 · 08/08/2020 09:51
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