I left an emotionally abusive marriage and went through a horrible divorce.
Since then I briefly dated one person (dates remained platonic for various reasons and then he called them off after the 7th date, I did like him though and we were back in touch during lockdown but that has fizzled out too), and that’s it. I met my 7 date person online and before him chatted to my quota of creepy people. Then there are all the people I hear about on here - terrible OLD experiences, not to mention the awful things that go on in relationships and I should know in any case.
I don’t know if I am ever going to meet anyone else, but after what I went through with my ex husband, I would so like a loving and kind relationship where communicating is easy and there is no abuse. I would like to know what that’s like.
However it seems that to find anyone I will have to spend years wading through liars, cheats, people who are only after sex etc..
Basically is there any point in trying as it all seems doomed to failure.
But also, please tell me your stories of lovely men you have met or who you know. Men who don’t ghost, lie, continuously look for something “better” online, just want sex, etc... It all seems very depressing. Am middle aged so that might not help either in terms of the pool of available men.
I don’t know, should I just accept that my shit marriage is what I get (it was my first relationship, so that doesn’t help) and forget about meeting someone else?
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Tell me about your experiences of nice men please?
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downwardspiral1 · 05/08/2020 00:01
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