Rented house in my name
2 x young dc
A shitty lockdown that brought his dependency on booze, nicotine and weed to a high point.
In hospital with a liver infection and now after a dry month he’s drastically cut back to 2-3 cans beer per night and has ditched tocacco (not weed) altogether. I’m not pushing for anything more. In fact when he was completely dry he was a nightmare. Actually a very pleasant drunk/stoner.
I'm depressed (not clinically, I just feel like shit) he's down and so very irritable and angry. Shouting, having a go at me and children is daily.
I'm a passive aggressive cow and know there's no good or bad person in this situation. I've become jaded and tired of it all.
I want the dc to live in a house full of fun and positivity and we are not providing them with that at the moment. I am parenting solo a lot of the time. I'm always up with them in the morning as he needs sleep. I take them out daily so he can be at home on his own.
I don't want to turn into some sad arse martyr (I really have no truck for the co dependancy thing). I am far from perfect and want to be able to fuck up and be a normal person but I feel like I'm being pigeon holed into being his support person.
He completely disagrees and thinks he's been absolutely fine and is doing really well.
The children don't go to him at all which is exhausting. If I try and get them to all go out for an hour there are tears and tantrums esp from the 2yr old and so I don't know what shared contact would look like anyway. I just want them to want to spend time with their dad without me sometimes.
So much racing through my mind so it's a bit of a ramble.
It boils down to how can we separate if he thinks we're fine and thinks I'm being ridiculous?
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How do you amicably separate if your Dh tells you that you’re being ridiculous for suggesting it and that he’s not going anywhere.
FuckYourMexicanPomBeaker · 03/08/2020 13:45
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