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Why is she not considerate?

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Skills2597 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:20:46

Some of you may think that I am being unreasonable. I live in a shared house and one individual, in particular, will take between 3-5 hours cooking knowing well that other people want to cook. It's like trying to cause conflicts in the household. I think it's done on purpose especially between 4 pm to 8 pm. The kitchen is small, so it's not suitable for two or more people cooking separately at once.

Am I right to be pissed off?

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jellymaker Thu 30-Jul-20 20:23:38

Because some people are so caught up with themselves, it doesn't occur to them what other people need. Unless you spell it out, you won't get anywhere. Stop being so reserved and tell her what you need

clpsmum Thu 30-Jul-20 20:23:50

Yes it would piss me off too! Have you spoken to hear about it though she may genuinely not even have given it any thought??

BumbleBeee69 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:25:52

get yourself into that kitchen and start cooking over her around her beside her !? that is a fucking ridiculous amount of time to be cooking in a kitchen when others are waiting to use it... selfish witch needs a boot up the arse... and told in no uncertain terms .. Sharing is Caring 🌺

category12 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:27:37

Do they take up the entire kitchen?

Can't you just go in and start cooking as well?

Skills2597 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:33:33

The kitchen is small, but will consideration we can all have a slot. She loves drama, I think.

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AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit Thu 30-Jul-20 20:34:23

I lived in a house share a few years ago whilst saving for my house deposit. The first house was great at first just the two of us, me and the guy who owned the house. Then he got a third person in and it was awful. He didn't mean to be annoying but he just took over the entire house. He was cooking all the time hogging the kitchen and stinking the house out, he left things in the washing machine, his shit was everywhere. The final straw was when I was hoping to have a quiet night in and he had four of his mates over. I moved out and knew from then onwards if I was going to house share it had to be just me and one other person.

Skills2597 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:34:36

*with the rest of the household cook quickly and leave the kitchen for someone else to use.

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category12 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:35:49

Just go in and put some pots on while she's in there.

What the hell is she cooking that takes several hours regularly?

Skills2597 Thu 30-Jul-20 20:37:06

@Wise, the last thing that we want is conflict even supermarkets encourages small shopping. We are all adjusting to new normal and it helps to be aware of other people's feelings.

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BumbleBeee69 Thu 30-Jul-20 22:09:47

We are all adjusting to new normal and it helps to be aware of other people's feelings.

I beg to differ.... as not all of you are adjusting to other peoples feelings.... hmm

Welshgal85 Thu 30-Jul-20 22:17:33

They are definitely being unreasonable, the kitchen is for you all to use not for one person to dominate! Have you spoken to them about this? I would talk to them and explain how you feel and that everyone else needs to use the kitchen too!

Onthemaintrunkline Thu 30-Jul-20 23:50:36

I can’t believe you or anyone else it affects haven’t said anything already!
This person has taken ownership of the kitchen, sheer selfish arrogance.
Should have been sorted 1st or 2nd time it happened.

AfterSchoolWorry Fri 31-Jul-20 00:00:13

Stop being so wet and tell her!

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese Fri 31-Jul-20 00:14:31

Why have you all let her carry on?

Can't someone create a time table where as you all have x amount of time each to 8pm and then she gets the 4 hours to midnight?

BitOfFun Fri 31-Jul-20 00:26:09

House meeting, I reckon. Suggest that if she's going to be in there that long, she cooks for all of you.

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