I’ve been coming to terms with my poor relationship with my husband. He drinks anywhere between 10-15 units every night, sometimes more on a bad night. He doesn’t see this as a problem because he drinks less than he has done in the past. But this has been going on for many years. We have 2 young dc. Last year I gave him an ultimatum which I don’t think he has taken seriously. He has even blamed me for his drinking.
On top of this, last year he wasn’t very nice at all even when not drinking. He bit picked at me about everything, I even quit my job to try and make our relationship better. Things are a bit better but I was so low at the end of last year I just don’t think I can forgive how he ground me down. I had counselling and feel much better now.
I’m building up the courage to leave and have been getting some plans in place. But I’m the meantime how do I find a bit of joy, to enjoy the everyday without constantly thinking about how to leave etc. I’m also always thinking - are things that bad, maybe they will work etc - but just writing this makes me realise how flawed the relationship is!
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Help me find some joy living with husband who drinks too much
trying606 · 29/07/2020 08:11
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