Long time MN user but new account.
2 yrs ago DH did the usual, 'too close to a female work colleague' thing. It was 4 weeks of discussing feelings, more than friends etc. She was very keen he was less so, but obviously not less enough!
After 4 weeks, he puts a stop to it, comes home tells me, shows me all the messages between them. Blocks her on all except work email. We go to therapy and have moved on. He refused to sext/send pictures or meet up at a hotel to 'talk things through' all things she asked for. (I've seen the messages, I've been on MN long enough not to believe what I'm told without proof!)
Anyway. Over the last 2 years she has occasionally fished for him, last time was Mother's day last year, got drunk, took a friend's phone and sent him texts about how terrible her life was, how she needed a friend etc... He showed me immediately, replied he cannot be that friend for her. Her friend is livid and OW apologises. Then she finds out she is pregnant. Big sigh of relief, she seems to concentrate on her marriage and we have had a yr of nothing.
Now to this w/e. She has separated from her DH and she immediately sends DH a work email saying her head is a mess, it's all bad but she's glad he is happy at least.
It's been 2 years (and a child for her), she is still blocked except work email, which is monitored. We decided to ignore it but I'm wondering if an answer back along lines of, 'sorry you're sad,, hope things get better, yes I'm very happy with DW' might actually be a better idea?
What do the wise MN jury think?
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Message OW or not?
Flipflopfoodle · 27/07/2020 18:20
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