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I have 4 siblings. In the past few years, after therapy, I have realised how emotionally neglectful my childhood was. We had enough materially but my parents are both emotionally immature, in different ways.
Me and my older sibling were definitely parentified children and did a lot of looking after our younger siblings and felt responsible for our mum's emotional state.
What I'm struggling to unpick/get perspective on is how much of that looking after is "normal" and to be expected in a large family and how much was putting an inappropriate and quite damaging burden on older siblings. I have children myself now and purposely stopped at 2.
Does anyone have any thoughts/insights?
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Perspectives on being a child in a large family with emotionally neglectful parents
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PotatoP · 27/07/2020 10:19
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