I met my partner 18 months, great chemistry between the both of us. We're both divorced with children so tricky in finding time to be together as a couple much less a family especially when we live 70 miles apart. We really only have time to see each other on the weekends. I've tried to involve him in my life, by inviting him to events and my daughter's school which he is very supportive but it's not reciprocated. I don't get invited to anything. He has a great relationship with my daughter, while his kids are polite to me. I know it is a big change but I try not to intrude on their space which is why I visit twice a month.
I've got him down as my next of kin, he still has his ex wife down as next of kin because of the children he says. He has helped me with redecorating my home, while he hasn't involved me at all in his redecorating the kitchen.
He was made redundant earlier this year and is trying to transition into a new career. I've tried my best to support him, helping with logistics and admin which has raised his profile but now he has asked for a time out from our relationship because he just wants time for himself. I haven't been in contact in over three weeks. I have a good relationship with his parents who live nearby because like me, I'm concerned about his mental health especially when I saw some of his recent artwork posted on social media.
I'm unsure what to do. Yes, I'm giving him the time and space, but what about afterwards? Since we have been together I've been doing the heavy lifting in this relationship and it's wearing me down both physically and mentally. I know I can count on this forum for a range of views so would really appreciate your advice. Thanks
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Janeale · 26/07/2020 18:25
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