I know I am probably going to get a bit of a roasting but here goes...
So, I'm single, 36 and have 2dc from a previous relationship. About a year and a half ago I had a fling with a married man I worked with... it's been on and off since then ( nothing physical only messaging) but I have very strong feelings for him and the chemistry between us is incredibly intense. I have literally never felt anything like it. When our eyes meet across the office at work it's like fireworks and I know he feels it too. But he is a fair bit younger than me and as much as I would give anything to be with him I know just how much of a mess that reality would actually be.
So, in order to try and get over him I have been on a couple of dates with a man who I actually know from years ago. He is sooo lovely, the nicest most decent, honest and thoughtful man you could meet. He seems to be very interested in me and I would definitely like to see more of him, he is an attractive man and would like to explore where things could go as I feel he could make me happy.
But, I'm worried that my feelings for the man I work with won't actually go away and if he texts me, I won't be able to resist texting back and saying and thinking things that I shouldn't. I fear I will always have feelings for him which wouldn't be fair on the man I am seeing. How do I resist temptation when I have strong feelings? Is it possible? Maybe I shouldn't even try. I am just so confused!
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Having feelings for two men
Chasinggold · 26/07/2020 15:33
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