Some of you may recognise me from a post the other week about our dying pet and my Dh's mental health. Everything has taken a bit of turn and I am just reeling. He started vomiting on Tuesday night, I thought was gastro/norovirus. By 6am he called NHS Direct who sent him to the GP because of the pain and because his stomach was hard and tender. The GP sent him to hospital where he was diagnosed with acute pancreatitis. He told me it could be caused by gallstones or binge drinking. I was shocked because he never drinks around me. I took my DD to nursery and my mum came over. I remembered that a couple of weeks ago I'd seen him take a swig from a bottle of whiskey I didn't know he had and he had, at first, claimed it was coke. He then said he;d been drinking a bit much to help with his mental health but he would stop right now. Like a fucking idiot, I believed him. THis came back to me yesterday. my DM and I found seven empty bottles of whiskey in the house, one hidden under the couch in this home office, one in the desk and five in the back of kitchen cupboard, including some hidden inside an empty box of soft drink. I'm devastated. My whole view of who he is and our relationship feels like it's collapsed. And I feel so bloody stupid. We've had 'a conversation'. I can;t visit him in hospital because of corona. He claims that he drank this 'over a long time' when I was either busy with our toddler or in bed. That it's not as bad as it looks, that he is now completely repulsed by alcohol and will not touch it again and all he wants is rebuild my 'image of him'. He also claims he's not actually dependent. He didn't actually say sorry at any point I now realise writing this and when I said I felt betrayed said he needed to focus on being in a positive place. This is a pack of lies, isn't it? He believes it now cos he's scared but that's no guarantee he won't do this again next time he gets a set back or stressed - like maybe when I give birth in three months? What the fuck do I do now? I love him, we've been together for so many years, we have beautiful daughter and baby on the way. I've told him he HAS to access support because I don't believe he can stick to it but where do I go from here? How do I trust him again? Can I? I'm just beyond devastated and trying to keep everything normal for DD until I know what to do so just holding it together until she goes to nursery. I've told my best friend and parents so I have some support but I am just bewildered.
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