I gave birth 6 months ago. Bad delivery - big baby, forceps. Still in physio for weak pelvic floor and prolapse.
We've had sex a handful of times since the birth. Most of the pain has now gone, but it is pretty numb and I am very self conscious and so rarely get active pleasure, although it is now not that unpleasant. I am hoping that continued physio (plus a bit more sleep to get my head in the right place) will improve this.
Most recent sex was Monday night. When i asked how it was, my husband said fine but loose. Tonight my husband, out of nowhere suggested I look for a large dildo so I can get pleasure because my vagina is now so loose he doesn't think his penis will be enough for me.
He insists that he asked this because he is concerned about my own pleasure. I feel like it was actually a sly dig. Maybe I am paranoid. He knows that I am self conscious and upset about my physical state since the birth. Why bring it up out of nowhere on a Tuesday night? There are other more gentler ways he could have approached it.
Was he being awful? Or am I, as he says, overly sensitive?
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Was this an awful thing for him to say?
orangesky1 · 22/07/2020 20:31
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