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Loopylou11 Tue 21-Jul-20 08:22:10

I posted on here a few weeks ago and now the relationship has more or less coming to and end. I had hoped that somewhere I could save it or he would be a bit more emotionally available. I have PTSD, but I manage it pretty well, I don't usually care that people still have a view of mental health issues in a negative light but today is the icing on the cake... During a somewhat heated discussion, I mean I was upset and crying, he looked at me so cold and said "I don't know what goes on in that warped little head of yours" this stung me so bad. I slept downstairs and woke up still so hurt by this. I cried, again...Am I being irrational? Am I taking it to heart? He made me feel so insignificant. He's called me crazy in the past and I don't think it hurt like this does. Says that basically anything I put to him "it's all in your head". I don't have family and stuff around, so once again I'm hoping someone here has got the advice X

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ThisIsTheBadger Tue 21-Jul-20 09:00:28

It was totally unacceptable for him to talk to you like that. He's welcome to be curious about your PTSD, but to highlight it in such a derogatory way is quite a big red flag that he wasn't going to treat you properly.

Your partner should never purposefully try to make you feel insignificant like this. I would cut contact with this man, as he sounds harmful.

Loopylou11 Tue 21-Jul-20 09:23:16

Thank you for taking the time out. I honestly believe he knows what he's doing when he says these things, but he makes me feel more crazy by dismissing it. I feel like I'm going round in circles, and I just never thought I'd end up married to someone like this

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ThisIsTheBadger Tue 21-Jul-20 10:07:25

@Loopylou11 it can be hard to realise that a person will start to behave like this, especially if they seemed reasonable before, and you don't have family and close friends nearby to confirm that they see what you're experiencing.

How does he respond when/if you try to go out socially?

Loopylou11 Tue 21-Jul-20 10:19:22

@ThisIsTheBadger he seems ok with it, but when it comes to work, mine always has to work around him. So it's difficult to find a job. He does all the shopping and stuff and doesn't withhold money or anything. He says that I'm lucky to have him, no other guy would put up with all my shit, sometimes I believe that.

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Loopylou11 Tue 21-Jul-20 10:24:24

My little sister did say a while bk that she thought my mental health had got worse since I got with him (8 years) not in any bad way just more concerned for me

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