As the title says! I've been with someone for three years on and off! The first year he was violent, controlling and manipulating! That first year he promised he would never physically touch me again..... and now into the third year he hasn't.... but nothing else has changed really. Yes we might be good for a while but soon his cracks start to show and he stops helping me around the house or even contributing, we don't live together but he acts like it's his when he is here but then can't even bring a toothbrush and expects me to get one for him.... sounds petty I know but trust me when I say he's been financially hard up since I met him! I had five grand in the bank saved and now I'm debt with step change managing my outgoings because of him. You can't ever talk to him because whatever I say is wrong or he has a twist, or he storms off and leaves! Then I'll get loads of messages saying you shouldn't have done this and remember that time we broke up for 6 months and you dated that fella, well he's rich, I'm sorry I'm not rich and I'm not good enough for you! That sort of thing and then it's, I love you, you know this is just how we get, but I know we've got true love for each other ..... so let's move on..... I come to tonight. We've been back together now around 4 weeks, this was after a couple months not together again. Things have been ok, they always are. But then he stops picking up after himself, leaving cups around you know what I mean. Not arriving with dinner, or he's turned up after work and I've cooked dinner, this was last night and I thought we could watch a film and he falls asleep, which he always does so what's the point in him coming to time??? Tonight around 10pm I go into the bathroom and the toilet seat is broken, he denies all knowledge of this and not only that the bath is dirty from when he bathes last night and then this evening after I had a shower and then sprayed and cleaned up he got in after me and when I was trying to fix the toilet both the bath and shower are dirty, the sink is filthy, his clothes, sorry my shorts because he's stopped bringing spare clothes now and thinks he can just lounge in my comfy shorts well they are on the floor. I raise all this to him without shouting, having an adult conversation and he stormed off shouting oh do you know what..... he then said all that stuff how I must of had some text from a fella tonight and that's why I'm being moody and then he mumbles some other stuff and so because I can see where this is going to go I ask him to leave which he isn't happy about, he does slamming the door and not saying one word to me. He will be home in about an hour and I'm sure the rubbish messages will start blaming me then when he's cooled down it will be I'm sorry and let's move on............. so does it ever change?????
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