Have known a woman in my local town for around a year. I wouldn't class her as a good friend but we swim together in our local area, wild swimming.
She's always wanted more always inviting me round to hers etc likes a good drink.
I've been working throughout the lock down, she doesn't work because she has ME.
There's been issue around driving to other areas to swim. Sometimes I have driven or she's driven for an hour to swim in various places and if I've had time off work that's what I've done. However I've said I prefer to swim 2 miles up the road regularly. I have 3 children I'm working and I'm also doing up my flat.
We belong to Facebook groups where you can join others so there's no shortage of people to swim with. A couple of weeks ago she asked me if I had a problem going to other places. I don't but I can't do it on a regular basis.
Recently however she'd asked if I did want to go somewhere else and I'd said yes. So tomorrow her and I and my daughter were going to a location an hours drive away and she asked if I'd take my car. She would by lunch. I thought it would be a nice relaxing day.
On Friday night she messaged me as another friend who she'd invited without saying anything had asked someone else and she was furious with him telling me he was an arsehole for inviting someone else. I really couldn't see what the problem was but was trying to be diplomatic. He's not been well looks like advance prostate cancer.
Today I got told by her, she was bringing her twin girls, 3 paddle boards and oars (they are deflatable) and she wasn't getting lunch, we were to bring a pic nic. I would have got my own lunch anyway. She'd also invited two other people. So the very thing she was annoyed with she seems to be doing herself.
She didn't say, by the way is it OK if I bring my twins and can you put three paddle boats, three life jackets and oars in Yr car. I was just basically told. It wouldn't have been a problem if she'd asked. Her husband doesn't want her messing up his car! We would also have all our swimming gear, wet suits....
I had already asked my son if he was coming, he's 18 but likes walking so he would trek off whilst we were swimming.
I also have my own business and all my equipment is in the back of my new car which means clearing it all out.
So I just said we cannot fit in one car. I hadn't realised her twins were coming. The thing is I don't want to go tomorrow I just feel as if a day out is turning into hard work. I don't want to fall out so need to send a polite message and decline the invitation.
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