Hi everyone
Not even sure if this is the right place for me to post this, I am not pregnant neither am I expecting or have any children. I'm 23, my boyfriend is 26. We have been together almost two years now. In lockdown I moved in with him, but I had to return home due to family reasons. In lockdown we had many ups and downs, it was tough. Since i've been home we've still seen one another but less often, and we've gotten on so much better. However, due to my insecurities (which I am working on) I always find myself causing such petty rows over pathetic stuff. My boyfriend is very respectful, patient, helps me mentally and is pretty much on speed dial for me whenever I need him. As I said, since i've been home we have had a few rows that have resulted in us almost breaking up, but he loves me so he's giving me a chance to work on myself and prove that we can be happy. Here is the problem, he is on a night out tonight (no sleazy bars or anything) just round his friends house with the boys for a BBQ. He's been in contact with me all day since he's been out, as he knows I hate not hearing from him for hours. Sadly, in the past there have been occasions where it got to about 10pm and I haven't heard from him until about 10am the next morning. I know that's not due to him not being loyal, as he's not like that. But I suffer from anxiety anyway so when I don't here from him for so long, I panic and have sleepless nights. This has only happened a few times in our whole relationship (he's not the type to be out every weekend anyway.) but right now i'm finding myself getting anxious already and thinking what if I don't hear from him until tomorrow. We spoke about this earlier and he said if for any reason he doesn't contact me, it's not because there's anything to worry about and it's simply because he's got carried away with his night out and is enjoying time with his friends. Which is true, as when they are out I don't ever see anyone on there phones as there is so much going on. My question is, I need some grown up and sensible advice as to how to deal with these worries and how to calm myself down? Like I said, he has been in contact with me all day, it's just the night time I worry about and it drives me mad! I'd really apprecate some advice.
Thanks everyone for reading!
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Need some grown up advice here please!?
louisas96 · 18/07/2020 17:16
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