So I’ve been advised by police CS etc to not allow unsupervised contact.
So I’ve been doing the contact with STBXH. But he’s still emotionally draining with sly digs, homophobic remarks about my family member etc. Saying things t the kids that I’m stopping this and that.
When I say no to contact I get Various levels of abuse. My counsellor suggested a third party do contact with or without me. So I’m looking into that.
So I’ve been putting him on loud speaker and letting them talk when he or the children want to. (This children don’t want to).
It makes me feel so sad and cruel that it’s come to this. I can hear the pain in his voice. And the children are confused too. I’m getting children some support.
I try to keep thinking that it’s his behaviour that has led to this but keep getting told by him it is mine.
Can anyone tell me a single thing to make me feel better about all this. The DV woman at police said if I allow contact and something happens they’ll be asking why I let them go to him. It’s just so hard to be round him when all I want to do is to heal myself and the children.
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damnthisvirusandmarriage · 18/07/2020 16:49
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