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He snaps at the slightest thing, then tells me all I want to do is argue!

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mmmmmmmmno · 17/07/2020 17:14

Just as the title says really. DH has a really short temper, I’m so fed up of this. He has just been swearing at me in front of DC

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KetoIFWinnie · 17/07/2020 17:18

Abusive behavior

Have you read Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That?

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KetoIFWinnie · 17/07/2020 17:20

Im guessing the answer is partly at least that you have been trained to adk for very little and to rarely challenge him.

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Bunnymumy · 17/07/2020 17:24

Because all he wants to do is argue. In order to 'win'. And to win, he has to create a loser.

Its abusive op and I'm sure you know this.
See about getting out. No child should be in an environment where their mother is berated constantly by their father.

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KetoIFWinnie · 17/07/2020 17:25

Yes, and also, having the power to upset you makes him feel powerful (briefly)

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paris1994 · 17/07/2020 20:57

Oh I know this situation! I went through this too.
The only thing I can say is if you don't want to break up, he must now acknowledge his short temper and seek some help.
If he doesn't seek help it will just stay in this cycle.

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HotSauceCommittee · 17/07/2020 21:25

Tell him to fuck off and get rid of him. He's a twat.

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clearedfortakeoff · 17/07/2020 21:44

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puzzledpiece · 17/07/2020 21:59

He's verbally and emotionally abusive and is gaslighting you by saying you are overreacting