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Is he still married?

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NTKnow · 17/07/2020 10:23

Hi MNers

Is there a way I can find out online if someone pursuing me is married please? He most likely got married after 2015. Been looking online and no help so far.

Thank you.

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NTKnow · 17/07/2020 11:05

Anyone please?

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AnneLovesGilbert · 17/07/2020 11:06

Have you asked him?

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NTKnow · 17/07/2020 11:10

@AnneLovesGilbert yup! He said "no". Been told it's not true by one of his exes.

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GilbertMarkham · 17/07/2020 11:14

Well you could check 192 people to see who he's been recorded as living with (?)

How about Facebook, are his accounts locked down?

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AussieGrrl · 17/07/2020 11:19

Sounds like too much hard work. I wouldn’t bother with him

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NTKnow · 17/07/2020 11:35

@GilbertMarkham yes. His accounts are air-tight. Can only see profile picture. Not even friends or posts. Frustrating. Will try the 192 people, thank you.

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hellsbellsmelons · 17/07/2020 12:06

Why aren't you friends on facebook?
Ask him to send you a friend request.
His response to that will be all you need to know.
Have you googled his name or phone number?
Then looked at images?

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c3pu · 17/07/2020 12:13

Ask him outright how long since he separated from his wife, and when the divorce came through?

Sounds like an awful lot of drama very early on though, very off putting and probably a big red flag.

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Lampan · 17/07/2020 13:31

You obviously don’t trust him to tell you the truth. Is it really worth pursuing anything with someone like this? I’d just cut my losses if I was you.

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 17/07/2020 13:34

Well what does his facebook say about his status?

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funnylittlefloozie · 17/07/2020 13:36

Oh fgs, if he wont even add you on FB, what is the point? Seriously, there are 3 billion men on the planet, this one is not worth the mental or physical effort.

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CuppaZa · 17/07/2020 13:38

I’d say if his social media accounts are air tight, he’s hiding something from someone (or some people)
Pretty sure you could find out if he’s still married or not. Do you thinks he’s currently still in a relationship, or that they’ve separated?

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lifesalongsong · 17/07/2020 13:44

@CuppaZa

I’d say if his social media accounts are air tight, he’s hiding something from someone (or some people)
Pretty sure you could find out if he’s still married or not. Do you thinks he’s currently still in a relationship, or that they’ve separated?

That's an interesting view, I dont have any public information on mine, I'm not hiding anything, I'm just a private person.

I wonder if anyone who searches for me thinks I've got deep dark secrets Grin

Is there any kind of registry of divorces? I suspect you'd never know for sure unless you saw the decree paperwork
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ChristmasFluff · 17/07/2020 14:33

He must be really keen on you, to not add you on facebook. Hmm

I agree with PPs - this isn't even a relationship, so just don't bother having anything else to do with him.

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MikeUniformMike · 17/07/2020 19:14

Been told it's not true by one of his exes.
If he tells you that the ex is a psycho, then he's probably still married.

When I met someone years ago, I was told by a mutual acquaintance that he had a girlfriend. The so called girlfriend was his sister.

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SandyY2K · 17/07/2020 19:46

You can try this link.

www.genesreunited.co.uk/articles/world-records/full-list-of-united-kingdom-records/births-marriages-and-deaths

I put in my birth date and marriage and it came up with both events.

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