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Jasxxx Thu 16-Jul-20 13:01:19

Hello ladies. Probably a bit TMI but I had my little boy 16 days ago and my partner and me are wanting to have sex. I had stitches would it be safe to resume having sex this early on after birth?

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MizMoonshine Thu 16-Jul-20 13:05:05

As long as you're not bleeding or in pain.

Alderaan Thu 16-Jul-20 13:10:58

So long as you feel ready. It was a similar period after having DS that DH and I resumed activities.

Jasxxx Thu 16-Jul-20 13:31:53

I'm not in any pain. My bleeding is just like a really really light period

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MizMoonshine Thu 16-Jul-20 13:37:06

Your cervix is still open if you're still bleeding which means that you're more vulnerable to infection. So take precautions. Use a condom. Make sure his hands are good and clean.
Or hold off until you're not bleeding.

sunflowersandtulips50 Thu 16-Jul-20 13:47:10

The advice if you have had stitches is to wait four weeks and until bleeding stops. Your putting yourself at risk of infection and I am assuming you have contraception sorted ?

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 16-Jul-20 13:48:49

You both it just him?

LouHotel Thu 16-Jul-20 13:50:58

Wait until the bleeding has stopped and if your not on contraception use a condom as your super fertile.

Personally along as the above is sorted just ask your partner to go at your pace and stop if you feel uncomfortable dont keep going through pain because you want to get the first time over with.

BakedBeeeen Thu 16-Jul-20 13:57:43

Oh wow - I really wouldn’t.

Wyntersdiary Thu 16-Jul-20 14:12:02

Hmmm well i had sex 2 weeks after birth. I found out i was pregnant 5 weeks later. XD haha i now have a 2 year old and a 1 year old. Yay.

But it was a little uncomfortable but not terrible but i didnt have stitches, to be honest i would wait another week or 2 , at least until you have stopped bleeding

Dery Thu 16-Jul-20 14:23:20

Hmmm - personally, I would wait a few more weeks until you've stopped bleeding. Apparently, most health professionals recommend waiting 4-6 weeks although there's no fixed period for waiting: www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/labor-and-delivery/in-depth/sex-after-pregnancy/art-20045669#:~:text=While%20there's%20no%20required%20waiting,first%20two%20weeks%20after%20delivery.

Waiting gives your body that bit longer to heal from the rigours of childbirth.

It's great that you're both keen (it was c. 3 mths before I felt ready so I may be projecting somewhat!) but it shouldn't be at the cost of you ending up with an infection, unnecessary soreness or indeed another pregnancy (unless that's what you want). In your shoes, I would just focus on the other ways in which you can enjoy each other for a few weeks more.

StoneColdBitch Thu 16-Jul-20 17:56:50

The NHS advice is very clear that you can resume sex whenever you and your partner feel ready:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/sex-contraception-after-birth/

You may wish to start with a finger first and work up to a penis.

The FSRH, and others, consider that you don't need emergency contraception if you have unprotected sex in the first 21 days after birth. However, personally I would use contraception anyway, not least as I'm a natural worrier! You definitely need contraception in place from day 21 after birth. Your GP or local family planning clinic can help.

Ilovechoccake Sat 18-Jul-20 03:58:14

When I had my first I had stitches and we had sex around 2 weeks after birth, with my second no stitches/grazing so 3 days (I know!) and with my last baby we we waited around 2-3 weeks x

Ilovechoccake Sat 18-Jul-20 03:59:13

May I add that I don’t bleed for very long, stopped bleeding after a week with my last two and it was very very light!

Sugartitties Sat 18-Jul-20 12:14:40

i had sex two weeks after my first and had another baby ten months later grin

Dullardmullard Sat 18-Jul-20 14:20:24

Fuck me no way would my husband get near me after 16 days I’d be to knackered for that shit

This isn’t the cool club gals only do when ready not when he says.

If vaginal births your vag is swollen and bloody tender down there.if section think if the wound and leaning on it now that bloody painful.

If stitches ouch if he’s inserting a penis in there hence waiting 6 weeks to heal.

Dullardmullard Sat 18-Jul-20 14:22:24

StoneColdBitch

The NHS advice is very clear that you can resume sex whenever you and your partner feel ready:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/sex-contraception-after-birth/

You may wish to start with a finger first and work up to a penis.

The FSRH, and others, consider that you don't need emergency contraception if you have unprotected sex in the first 21 days after birth. However, personally I would use contraception anyway, not least as I'm a natural worrier! You definitely need contraception in place from day 21 after birth. Your GP or local family planning clinic can help.

The no need for emergency contraceptive within 21 days by the FSRH is frighten as folks do get pregnant as pps have stated

RantyAnty Sat 18-Jul-20 14:28:40

Do you feel like it or is he pressuring you?

NHS advice was probably written by a man.

SnuggyBuggy Sat 18-Jul-20 14:31:53

Can you really be bothered?

StoneColdBitch Sat 18-Jul-20 15:20:42

@Dullardmullard I can't entirely understand your post because of the typo, but that is the FSRH advice - here is a link:

www.fsrh.org/standards-and-guidance/documents/ceu-clinical-guidance-emergency-contraception-march-2017/

I note the comments from others about not wanting sex so soon after birth. I agree nobody should have sex they don't want, but I think it's important not to judge women who do feel ready for sex shortly after birth. Some do!

crimsonlake Sat 18-Jul-20 15:30:19

If you have had stictches I would not even contemplate it, actually stitches or not I would never have contemplated it. Really what is the hurry, give yourself time to heal properly and rest as much as you can.

2847381User Sat 18-Jul-20 15:45:22

You both it just him?

I was wondering that. I wouldn't, 16 days ago you gave birth and you had stitches.... I think having sex this soon is asking for an infection of some sort.

Tell him to have a wank, I'm surprised any woman would feel horny 16 days after giving birth shock poor things been battered enough from giving birth, let it heal!

user1481840227 Sat 18-Jul-20 16:00:03

I wouldn't risk it until the bleeding has stopped.
There's a possibility of infection.
I'm sure there are horror stories out there of this happening!

NotaCoolMum Sat 18-Jul-20 17:45:42

I was told by my midwife if I had sex within the first month of birth that I WOULD get pregnant so def have a think!!

firstimemamma Sat 18-Jul-20 17:53:16

Even if you feel fine, there will be a dinner plate sized wound inside you where the placenta was and it needs to heal. That's why they recommend 6 weeks regardless of how up to sex you feel / seem. I'd wait otherwise you risk infection.

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