I’ve been with my bf now for some time and early on in the relationship he dropped a bomb shell that he was was expecting a child from a one off hook up with an ex. He already had a daughter from a previous relationship which I was totally fine with, the hook up pregnancy was an accident and the mum to be wanted to keep the baby. Initially I had to think long and hard about the situation but I stayed as he isn’t a bad person and it was genuinely a mistake. He had no intention of being with the mum of the second child. Since the baby has been born during lockdown I’ve found it extremely hard to deal with, more so than I thought. Lockdown of course didn’t help as he also wasn’t able to see his son. However, the mum spends a lot of time with his family arranging walks out, lunch at his parents house every week etc. She has recently grown close with his sister and it’s made me feel extremely outcast. I’ve built an amazing relationship with his little girl but I’m yet to meet his new son. I just feel so uneasy about the whole thing. It feels like the mum is purposely going out of her way to get her foot in the door with his family as much as possible. I would never stop him from seeing his son but I’m beginning to not enjoy him spending so much time with the mum too, I wish he would just be allowed to have him on his own for a day so my bf can spend time with his son and his family. Not his son, family and the mother of the child, whilst I’m sat at home twiddling my thumbs. I’ve mentioned my concerns to my bf and he understands but I think if I keep pushing it he’ll soon be annoyed that I’m finding it so hard. Am I being selfish? I can’t tell... It’s just all been a bit harder to swallow than I initially thought or anticipated I think... any advice would be gratefully received!
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