I'm in a situation.
I feel like our relationship is on borrowed time. I've been feeling like I want to leave for about 18 months now. But there is more than me in this relationship. We have a daughter and we're due to move house any day now. Not only that we have also been going through assessment to adopt a family member and panel is due to be confirmed.
The thing is I'm not really in this relationship. I'm more of a maid/babysitter and it's partially my fault because he's never done a single load of washing in his life, he wasn't excited about our pregnancy, he prioritises football and videogames and I know he'd prefer to not be involved in this adopting he never talks about it and is uncomfortable when he has to.
He's not the kind of person I see myself with, he doesn't support me or my decisions. He has told me that he's only going ahead with the adoption because it's my family, I'd rather have someone on board who is fully on board. I understand that's a lot to ask but imo it's either all in or nothing in these situations, you don't just allow it to happen and take no responsibility if it does happen.
He's not an awful person and I know he'll be heartbroken if I leave because we've had similar conversations in the past which have resulted in suicide threats ect (he was drunk).
What would you?
I need advice because I feel like I'm trapped and drowning to keep everyone around me happy and I don't know how much longer I can do this for.
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Amiayoungmumthough · 12/07/2020 23:55
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