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I want to try OLD but I'm scared in case it doesn't work!(3 Posts)
I've been toying with trying this for a while now, but I keep procrastinating because if it doesn't work - well then, that's it! No more options! I know that sounds stupid, and believe me, I'm old enough to know better.
I know I'm not explaining it well but it's like at the minute OLD is an option I still have, but if it doesn't work, well that's it, I'm totally of luck! So I keep putting it off and in the meantime nothing is happening and time is passing me by! How can I change my way of thinking?
I understand your thinking however you believing that if OLD doesn’t work and then ‘that’s it’ is really the same as thinking, I’ll go to the pub/club tonight and if there’s no-one there then I’m not ever bothering going out again! OLD is an ever changing environment, some bad but equally some good in amongst all the weirdos!
There isn’t just one OLD platform, there are lots out there and, even though you might see the same old faces on each one, equally you get new people on each popping up.
Before you dabble in OLD you need to have a bit of thick skin and don’t taken anything to heart, it can be tough but you could also meet some great people and go on some good dates.
I’m no spring chicken and it panicked me a bit at first but give it a try, you really have nothing to lose. Good luck!
I was exactly the same as you until about two weeks ago (had procrastinated for ages).
Signed up to Elite Singles as had heard you get more educated types on there - turned out to be a dead loss as, despite chatting for a bit with one man, most of my matches looked like half dead geriatrics.
Then I joined Zoosk. It is way, way better, easy to use and the men on it are more attractive and plentiful!
I am very picky and have just chosen one bloke to talk to at the moment, out of many who have approached me. Am having a great time chatting and will probably meet him soon.
Do it! You have nothing to lose. Choose the nicest photos you have of yourself and take care to create a good profile.
Good luck x
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