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Three things a man looks for in a relationship?

19 replies

JazzleRazzle · 12/07/2020 21:19

Ok, apologies - this is totally based on the other thread about what women look for in a man but I am intrigued now....

If you have a male knocking around the place could you please ask him what three things he looks for in a partner ( immediate response, no deliberation allowed!) and also could you put his age bracket too please and if in a long term relationship (as I wonder if age and relationship status will affect the responses given?)

Just asked DH - he is 50-55, married 20 years he said::

  1. Caring
  2. Intelligence
  3. Naturally sexy
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Bagelsandbrie · 12/07/2020 21:20

I think dh (33, together 12 years) would just take someone who didn’t snore at this stage. Blush

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Crystal87 · 12/07/2020 21:24

I asked my DH (29). He said trust, companionship where someone is your best friend and sexual attraction.

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Windmillwhirl · 12/07/2020 21:24

Bagelsandbrie Grin

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Pannacottaformeplease · 12/07/2020 21:31

@bagelsandbrie that made me laugh!

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Wherearemymarbles · 12/07/2020 21:35

Victoria Wood
Victoria Wood
Victoria Wood

I always had a bit of crush on her. !

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itsureis · 12/07/2020 21:41

Gosh the other thread is a little too sensible isn't it ....
Hardly any mention of sexual attraction or the ability to satisfy in the bedroom !!
No wonder we get bored and have affairs 😬. Just kidding ;-)

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GisAFag · 12/07/2020 21:44

A woman who would have a 3some..obviously it's OK for her to be a woman but not him with a man!

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DoWahDiddy · 12/07/2020 23:42

Sex skills of a prostitute
Demeanor of Mother Theresa
Organisational skills of Anneka Rice

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Valkadin · 13/07/2020 00:45

Just asked DH

Great body
Good company
Not hard work

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Oldrockman · 13/07/2020 01:16

Intelligence,
Some sort of connection.
It all should flow from that if it is right.
That is it really.

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 13/07/2020 01:22

My late DH and i had this conversation weirdly, if I can remember correctly he said he valued honesty, fidelity and kindness. He espoused all of these values himself so it made sense that he would expect similar. He had been hurt before by a cheating ex.

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Lurleene · 13/07/2020 01:23

I asked DS (15) earlier

  1. Must like me (him, not me!)
    2 ) Must like Bull Terriers
  2. Likes Alan Partridge
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Pamwasdreaming · 13/07/2020 01:33

I know all men are different yada yada yada ... but I think by and large good looks have a mahajor part to play for a lot of men, way way more than women care about looks.

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Pamwasdreaming · 13/07/2020 01:36

Some men wouldn’t admit to that but I’ve a lot of brothers & male mates and it’s astounding to me what they’ll overlook in a good-looking woman that they wouldn’t in a less good-looking woman.

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Crunched · 13/07/2020 01:39

DH says "lots of loving, lots of laughs and lots of loyalty"
That is after 30 years of marriage.

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OhioOhioOhio · 13/07/2020 01:43

Money, company, independence

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Ritascornershop · 13/07/2020 01:45

This amazes me as (I’m divorced) the women I observe who stay married all seem to be hard work. Not you lot, but women I know. I’ve formed the impression men prefer being told what to do. I may be looking at the wrong partnerships though!

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1forAll74 · 13/07/2020 02:08

In the olden days, men looked for a woman who wasn't bad looking,, could cook a good hearty meal each day, didn't nag him, and had good child bearing hips. ha ha,, but true.

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BitOfFun · 13/07/2020 02:23

DH (early fifties, been together 15 years) says:

Trust and loyalty
Feeling loved by the person
Good company (i.e. intelligence, humour, companionship)

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