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Three things a man looks for in a relationship?

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JazzleRazzle Sun 12-Jul-20 21:19:13

Ok, apologies - this is totally based on the other thread about what women look for in a man but I am intrigued now....

If you have a male knocking around the place could you please ask him what three things he looks for in a partner ( immediate response, no deliberation allowed!) and also could you put his age bracket too please and if in a long term relationship (as I wonder if age and relationship status will affect the responses given?)

Just asked DH - he is 50-55, married 20 years he said::

1) Caring
2) Intelligence
3) Naturally sexy

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Bagelsandbrie Sun 12-Jul-20 21:20:27

I think dh (33, together 12 years) would just take someone who didn’t snore at this stage. blush

Crystal87 Sun 12-Jul-20 21:24:25

I asked my DH (29). He said trust, companionship where someone is your best friend and sexual attraction.

Windmillwhirl Sun 12-Jul-20 21:24:41

Bagelsandbrie grin

Pannacottaformeplease Sun 12-Jul-20 21:31:49

@bagelsandbrie that made me laugh!

Wherearemymarbles Sun 12-Jul-20 21:35:49

Victoria Wood
Victoria Wood
Victoria Wood

I always had a bit of crush on her. !

itsureis Sun 12-Jul-20 21:41:53

Gosh the other thread is a little too sensible isn't it ....
Hardly any mention of sexual attraction or the ability to satisfy in the bedroom !!
No wonder we get bored and have affairs 😬. Just kidding ;-)

GisAFag Sun 12-Jul-20 21:44:43

A woman who would have a 3some..obviously it's OK for her to be a woman but not him with a man!

DoWahDiddy Sun 12-Jul-20 23:42:56

Sex skills of a prostitute
Demeanor of Mother Theresa
Organisational skills of Anneka Rice

Valkadin Mon 13-Jul-20 00:45:18

Just asked DH

Great body
Good company
Not hard work

Oldrockman Mon 13-Jul-20 01:16:59

Some sort of connection.
It all should flow from that if it is right.
That is it really.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Mon 13-Jul-20 01:22:46

My late DH and i had this conversation weirdly, if I can remember correctly he said he valued honesty, fidelity and kindness. He espoused all of these values himself so it made sense that he would expect similar. He had been hurt before by a cheating ex.

Lurleene Mon 13-Jul-20 01:23:05

I asked DS (15) earlier
1) Must like me (him, not me!)
2 ) Must like Bull Terriers
3) Likes Alan Partridge

Pamwasdreaming Mon 13-Jul-20 01:33:28

I know all men are different yada yada yada ... but I think by and large good looks have a mahajor part to play for a lot of men, way way more than women care about looks.

Pamwasdreaming Mon 13-Jul-20 01:36:17

Some men wouldn’t admit to that but I’ve a lot of brothers & male mates and it’s astounding to me what they’ll overlook in a good-looking woman that they wouldn’t in a less good-looking woman.

Crunched Mon 13-Jul-20 01:39:27

DH says "lots of loving, lots of laughs and lots of loyalty"
That is after 30 years of marriage.

OhioOhioOhio Mon 13-Jul-20 01:43:40

Money, company, independence

Ritascornershop Mon 13-Jul-20 01:45:51

This amazes me as (I’m divorced) the women I observe who stay married all seem to be hard work. Not you lot, but women I know. I’ve formed the impression men prefer being told what to do. I may be looking at the wrong partnerships though!

1forAll74 Mon 13-Jul-20 02:08:53

In the olden days, men looked for a woman who wasn't bad looking,, could cook a good hearty meal each day, didn't nag him, and had good child bearing hips. ha ha,, but true.

BitOfFun Mon 13-Jul-20 02:23:08

DH (early fifties, been together 15 years) says:

Trust and loyalty
Feeling loved by the person
Good company (i.e. intelligence, humour, companionship)

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