Hi everyone. I’ve just joined the site after having lurked for several years and read many threads.
I’m after a bit of advice and reassurance please.
20 years ago I had a “thing” with a man for several months, but had known him for several years. Both of us were already in relationships at the time. My conscience got the better of me and I ended things. I haven’t seen him since. Shortly after this I became pregnant and had a daughter, then split up from her father. I’ve pretty much been on my own since then with the odd date, and a couple of brief relationships. I’ve put the last 19 years into raising my daughter, going to uni and building a career. Now my daughter is getting more independent every day, has a boyfriend who she’s been with for a year, and I feel like it’s time for me to think about men again!!!
Anyway, the man I had the brief “thing” with all this years ago had popped up on Facebook. I sent him a friend request, we’ve chatted a little on messenger and we’ve planned for me to go and see him for a weekend in 4 weeks time (lives 4 hours away)
I’m excited, nervous, terrified and a hundred other things!! I know where things will lead when I visit as I’ll be staying at his place for the weekend. I’m 50 now and full of insecurities about how much I’ve aged, the fact my body is different from how it was all those years ago (a size 10 now but full of wobbly bits!!). What can I do to boost my confidence? It’s been so long since I’ve been with a man but I’m hoping the familiarity of being with someone I used to know will make it a little easier.
I have no thoughts about where, if anywhere, I’d like this to go. I’ll get through my visit and see how both of us feel then.
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Elle111 · 12/07/2020 13:36
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