Looking for advice.
I broke up with my ex a few weeks ago after our final fight. It was over something trivial as usual. He flipped out and swore at me as usual. He apologised as usual but this time I had enough. Everything had been getting too much and I told him to leave. Granted our communication hadn't been great in the relationship but his tactic in arguments was to get verbally abusive to hurt me.
He wants us back together, part of me does too but I'm staying strong. I told him that we could never be together until he seeks help. He has been acknowledging his behaviour and seems to want to change but I'm not stupid, I know it's not a quick fix. But then he keeps asking to meet up for dinner, walks and gets angry when I say no. He says things like "You're messing with my head" "I'm trying to relay foundations" "not wanting to see me even as a friend, proves you don't care" "Go find someone who can make you happy because clearly I'm not the one" "You have handled this wrong by not seeing me, it's pushing us apart"
Am I messing with his head?
I did the Freedom Programme and it made me feel even more confused about the relationship. He has all the traits of "Mr Right" but he has a short temper and uses bad language when he's mad. Is it possible to have all the traits of Mr Right but still be abusive? Am I over reacting and being sensitive?
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He's making me feel bad for leaving.
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LM1991 · 12/07/2020 12:39
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