My DP and I have two children age 6 and 9. He works 60 hours a week, 7am-12 noon on Tuesday and Wednesdays, then nights 8.30pm-7.30am Thursday all the way through to Sunday. He sleeps in the days 8am-2pm his choice, I think he should sleep more but he said he gets a 2 hour break at work which he sleeps on. I work 8.30am-2.30pm Monday to Friday. Do breakfast school drop off, school pick up, homework take to clubs, dinner washing up cleaning food shopping etc etc. He says he cannot help with any of it because he works 60 hours a week. I’m now furloughed I’ve had kids at home for 16 weeks, he has done nothing with them. I’m so exhausted and isolated because our oldest is shielding. I feel like I’m going to have a breakdown. I’ve spoken to him and he said he feels like we don’t get on and have grown apart. We can try and make things work but I need to be affectionate, I can’t be affectionate because I’m basically on my own all day with the kids and all night on my own. When he is here he does his own thing like computer tv jogging etc. I feel broken. He is annoyed with me and said he would feel like it was a holiday if he was furloughed. He said if I’m unhappy he will leave, but then I’ll be even more on my own than I am now! I’m so fed up I feel on the verge of a breakdown. I feel like I barely I’m just on my own with dc all of the time. He does nothing with them. He said I’m just looking at the negatives and he’s hard working earns well we have a nice home etc. Which is true. But I feel so depressed it’s starting to affect me I feel like I can’t take much more of being solely responsible for the dc and be the only one who does anything with them with no input from him. Am I asking too much from him?
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