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AIBU Cousins?!(7 Posts)
Okay so my partner has no siblings and so grew up quite close to his cousin. There not as close as they were now but sometimes the MIL can be a bit of a meddler.
Anyway I found out today that the cousin had asked where my partner was christening the baby (no mention of my name just the partners) and the MIL mentioned that she’d spoken to me and I was having a Methodist christening at my church (I’m the only religious on so it’s what me and partner have agreed on) and when the MIL was trying to explain it to the cousin she made out like it was some hippy church and they were both quite rude about it.
The cousin also wanted us to have a CofE christening so she could christen her 3 year old soon in the same service which I and definitely not cool with. So do I challenge it or just ignore it and carry on as planned with what me and my partner have planned?
I’m pretty annoyed about it all but I feel like it might be my hormones as no ones forcing me to change my mind.
I don't think it's rude that they asked where your DP was christening the baby, especially if they don't know you that well.
With regard to the 3 year old getting christened too... as long as you and your DP are on the same page, just say no if asked? Otherwise ignore them and keep your distance from meddling MIL. It's odd that she even told you about the hippy comment.
So 2 things :
1. You've included your DH/DP's name. Mumsnet HQ can take that out for you for your privacy if you report the post
2. You are absolutely right that your OH's cousin has no right to dictate what church you christen your child in, or to muscle in on it and take your day and make it a joint day, without approaching you quietly and privately and making sure you knew it was ok if you said No.
If they want their child to have a C OF E Christening then they can jolly well arrange one separately, what's it got to do with you?
The absolute cheek of it!
Hi, we've edited the opening post now to remove any names.
Honestly? I think it might be your hormones. This sounds pretty much like a non-event.
Go ahead with your plans.
No you don’t change it!
If they’re rude, they don’t get invited (not that you can stop them attending the service of course)
Who is passing this information on to you? That's odd, gossipy and trouble making for a start.
Has sil actually directly asked you to change your plans or is this all coming from a 3rd party? I suspect 3rd party is twisting what was said for their own biased reasons. If it's through 3rd party just ignore and continue your plans. If sil ask directly, a polite no is sufficient.
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