Hi
I’ve been married to my Husband for almost nine years and together for 18. We have four children together.
Over the last two years I’ve noticed how bad he is becoming at running me down.
To the point where I’ve recently bought a book a write everything down!
I feel like I can’t do anything right , every single little thing I do is criticised from washing up to cooking and everything is in between.
I often go to bed Feeling low and upset and lonely !
This evening I was moaned at for not washing the suds off the dishes before drying , moaned at for not wishing to purchase a new kettle.
I’ve tried to talk nicely and explain how this is making me feel and also how often it’s happening, I’m always met with how uptight I’ve become and how I can’t take a joke.
But after 18 years of putting up with this I don’t find it funny anymore, in fact I’m so sick and tired of it !
I feel so low, I’ve got to a point in my life where I just don’t think it’s fair anymore !
I’m called messy and untidy, fat and lazy, everytime the children do something wrong it’s always reverted back as my fault for not watching them or helping them.
Is there something I can do to mend this, am I doing something wrong?
I love him dearly and I have spent my whole adult life with him but I’m so unhappy and want him to understand without causing a blazing row each time I mention how his insults are hurting my feelings!
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Running me down
Loghanw01 · 09/07/2020 19:34
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