I was seeing a guy casually, on and off, for about 6 months. It was soon after a breakup and I was in a bit of a state emotionally. He wasn’t the best, I fancied him by didn’t want anything serious and over time I realised he was a bit of a strange character, he could be aggressive and possibly had some mental health issues (no judgement, so have I). I ended it, telling him that I wasn’t over my ex (true) and I thought he was getting to attached to me and I didn’t want to hurt him (also true).
That’s was 2.5 years ago and he still texts me now and again. If I answer and engage with it it usually ends up in him asking me to go over. Which I never do.
I don’t want to be rude to him because I don’t think he is a bad guy but I have no interest in talking to him. I don’t want to give him false hope because I think he still wants things to carry on, and I juts don’t want that. I have had a great deal of other things happening in my life recently including deaths In my family, close family members in hospital and being ill myself. The last thing that I want to be doing is texting someone I used to to shag two years ago! Sorry if that sounds harsh.
I have tried phasing the texts out gradually and only replying to every other one but he never seems to take the hint. It goes against my nature to just ignore someone but I don’t want this anymore.
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Captnip500 · 08/07/2020 11:51
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Captnip500 ·
09/07/2020 02:42
@HollowTalk
If I answer and engage with it it usually ends up in him asking me to go over.
He just fancies a shag and thinks you'll oblige. Block him. You don't owe him anything - this is how he thinks of you, so why would you try to be kind to him?
He just fancies a shag and thinks you'll oblige. Block him. You don't owe him anything - this is how he thinks of you, so why would you try to be kind to him?
Well in fairness HollowTalk, for the few months we knew each other, it was me who looking for a shag and him who obliged
. So I can’t blame him for inviting me over for sex, because that’s all we ever used to do and at the time that suited me. It’s the length of time he is still pestering each thats doing my head in. I think part of it might be that I mentioned not being over my ex when’s I ended it. I think he might be hoping that I am over him now, I am too, but I don’t want to go back there again.
Thanks again for the advice and you are right, I need to be cruel to be kind here and just block him as he won’t take the hint. Soulofanaggron I know what you mean, persistence to this extent does feel like pressure.
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Captnip500 ·
09/07/2020 02:42
@HollowTalk
If I answer and engage with it it usually ends up in him asking me to go over.
He just fancies a shag and thinks you'll oblige. Block him. You don't owe him anything - this is how he thinks of you, so why would you try to be kind to him?
He just fancies a shag and thinks you'll oblige. Block him. You don't owe him anything - this is how he thinks of you, so why would you try to be kind to him?
Well in fairness HollowTalk, for the few months we knew each other, it was me who looking for a shag and him who obliged
. So I can’t blame him for inviting me over for sex, because that’s all we ever used to do and at the time that suited me. It’s the length of time he is still pestering each thats doing my head in. I think part of it might be that I mentioned not being over my ex when’s I ended it. I think he might be hoping that I am over him now, I am too, but I don’t want to go back there again.
Thanks again for the advice and you are right, I need to be cruel to be kind here and just block him as he won’t take the hint. Soulofanaggron I know what you mean, persistence to this extent does feel like pressure.
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Jullyria ·
09/07/2020 03:04
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