Hello, been around for a while, not very actively - namechanged for this. Preliminary info: I'm not in the UK, no tight lockdown where I live.
I've been seeing a guy for a month now. Wasn't looking for a relationship when we met, have known him from an online forum on our favourite pets for quite a while.
I'm close to 40, he is 45-50. I've never been married (and have been single for a very long time), he is divorced, no kids. As I understand he and his ex were in very different stages of their lives when they married, and grew apart after a few years. He wanted children, she didn't, or at least not for longer - and this is where my problem is.
He is funny, very practical with a lot of common sense, considerate, easygoing. Not exactly my type physically (overweight) but I could look past that. He is not working or doing much in the way of out-of-the-home activity, he doesn't need to money-wise, but I confess this bother me more than the weight.
However, what actually makes me worried is the fact that he seems to be fixated on kids and pregnancy. Keeps dropping jokey hints at our long-term future, me moving in with him, and a few days ago actually creeped me out with something he said while cuddling. His head was lying on my belly and he said something like "If we had known each other for a LOT longer, my head would be this high (indicating bump with hands), then this high..."
I wonder how he couldn't hear the thousand alarm bells going off in my head. I mean, at our ages, progressing a relationship a bit faster than usual is OK, but this was way too direct for my liking.
Should I end this now or wait how things develop?
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Dump now or wait and see?
Rec0veringAcademic · 07/07/2020 15:18
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