My partner (29) and I (32) have been together for a year. We met as he was going through a messy house sale with his ex partner. He moved in with me really quickly (which was more situational due to his house sale). Looking back it was a mistake as it was too quick, but hindsight is wonderful isn’t it? He came to my house with nothing but his clothes, looking for a fresh start. We have a great relationship but both of us went through a bit of a tough time lately and it brought to light the need for some space, particularly on his part. He has never lived alone before, has always been with parents, or with previous partners and he feels he needs to live alone to learn more about himself and be independent. We both know he should have bought his own place after his house sale but it never worked out like that. We both love eachother very much but he feels very strongly about this, he likes my house, but feels it is not his (it is solely my mortgage) and wants to have somewhere to call his own, and have a property to be financially independent with something to show for it. I have no issues with this as if it was me, I would want my own property as a safety net. As we merged our lives too quickly, we didn’t really do the whole ‘dating phase’ and we just moved in together too soon. My only issue is, after living together and seeing him everyday (which I loved) we now only see eachother a couple of times of a week. It almost feels like we are less committed. It’s like having to learn to take a bit of a back seat. We still see eachother and remain in a relationship only he has moved back to his dad’s whilst he sorts out buying his own place (we now live about 50miles apart) and works on feeling better as he has a bit of a breakdown during lockdown. Has anyone got any success stories about this working? How often do you see your partners if you don’t live together? I want to sustain this as I love him very much but it is hard as I feel like I am going backwards
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