Hello
I have never posted on any of these boards but really am at a impasse/ major fork in the road in my marriage.
We have been married 6 years have a beautiful 4yo and 1yo so incredibly lucky.
I have been with my husband approx 12yrs and his binge drinking has ALWAYS been an issue. One which in my younger years I felt he would
Grow out of. He isn’t an alcoholic but for sure has alcohol abuse issues he doesn’t have a stop button and if he goes for it gets absolutely blotto. When we were younger, child free he used to just go on crazy all nighters which was fine but meant our weekend by and large was ruined and we would argue.
Time has passed we are now older and have two young children. He still continues to do this last weekend he went for ‘celebratory lockdown easing’ drinks and came back at 7am in the morning. What has upset me more than anything is I actually feel nothing about this. It used to upset me but now nothing. I was angry and upset for my two children who wanted to go somewhere with him but he was incapable. This has sort of put a tin hat on my feelings he hasn’t apologised for doing this and I am that shocked he hasn’t I am
Just doing the quiet but civil
Thing(whatever that is!?)
Added to this are the usual strains of handling young children I.e. non stop
Energy, tiredness and lockdown haven’t helped. Prior to this he has said he felt life was a grind (which was like thanks for that) and as someone with long standing issues with eating disorders I have by my own hand eaten myself up to the biggest weight I have ever been and feel wretched. The weight thing is not his fault it’s mine alone I should have got a control on it but have always been an emotional eater and have gone to town on this.
I feel like our marriage is a joke he doesn’t respect me and Due to this I have stopped respecting myself is there anyway back from
This, have I married a loser? Should I have paid more attention to the red flags years ago (but didn’t)
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Bertie1981 · 06/07/2020 15:02
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