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Stop seeing him because he’s a bad kisser?

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Freshdaisy · 05/07/2020 22:10

Went on 1 date with a guy before lockdown and went well. Stayed in contact over last 4 months and met for socially distant walks when allowed. Saw last night when the pubs opened and had first kiss.
Kiss was such a let down, appears he is a bad kisser that doesn’t know what to do.

Do I stop seeing him or is this too trivial? Will he be bad in bed too? Is it just lack of experience and I should talk to him about it?
We do get on well and stayed in contact Throughout lockdown so would be a shame to end it but sexual and physical contact is important to me. If it’s rubbish I can’t live with that

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namechange12a · 05/07/2020 22:12

It's not sounding good OP. I kissed someone once whose idea of kissing was to put his tongue limply in my mouth and just leave it there. I had flashbacks for months.

He may be open to suggestion but if he's not, it's not looking good between the sheets.

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SoulofanAggron · 05/07/2020 22:17

Let him know what you like in a kiss. Maybe his ex liked something different so that's what he does. My ex found my style of kissing poor- he trained me to do it with my mouth as wide open as possible, and really slobbery etc. Then someone else said 'why are you kissing me like a praying mantis?' Grin

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Itsallpointless · 05/07/2020 23:14

Train him OP, it can be done!

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LesNanas · 05/07/2020 23:17

This is exactly why I slept with people as soon as possible back in my single days — to avoid liking someone and discovering down the line that he kissed like a sheepdog and had the sexual technique of a Neanderthal in a rush.

I’d pass in your shoes, OP.

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itsureis · 05/07/2020 23:27

As I'm currently with a guy who kisses like a dream, this would be a deal breaker for me.
But if you like him enough, show him how it's done.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 05/07/2020 23:34

I would not put up with someone who kissed like a Labrador or a washing machine.

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Bodgedboxdye · 05/07/2020 23:35

@namechange12a oh my, god. I’ve had that. The absolute worst.

I couldn’t see someone that was a bad kisser. You just wouldn’t look forward to kissing them.

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Bunnymumy · 05/07/2020 23:35

It depends if it's just a technique issue or if it's a lack of chemistry or inacompatablr lipsizes or something.

The first one can be worked on. You just need to show him how it's done ;)

The other two, not so much.

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sitckmansladylove · 05/07/2020 23:36

I don't know what to advise but kissing is important. You need to fancy them. But maybe things might improve???

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Opentooffers · 05/07/2020 23:43

Seeing someone who is very experienced, good in the sack, but surprisingly I'm the only person ever who has mentioned that he nobles my lip somehow when he kisses, which kind stops the ability to do lingering passionate snogs that I like. So good in other ways and he has listened a bit so manages to keep his teeth in check most of the time, I'm training him up to my tastes Wink

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Opentooffers · 05/07/2020 23:44

Ninbbles Hmm

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Opentooffers · 05/07/2020 23:45

Nibbles even, can't type this evening Confused

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DaisyRaisin · 05/07/2020 23:48

What age is he? Is he experienced?

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backseatcookers · 05/07/2020 23:49

Incompatible kissing styles soon turns into the ick... and as well all know, the ick is an unstoppable force.

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DaisyRaisin · 05/07/2020 23:51

@namechange12a

It's not sounding good OP. I kissed someone once whose idea of kissing was to put his tongue limply in my mouth and just leave it there. I had flashbacks for months.

He may be open to suggestion but if he's not, it's not looking good between the sheets.

That just made me feel sick! That's awful..... lmao
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Candyfloss99 · 05/07/2020 23:53

No he's just a friend not a lover.

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stophuggingme · 05/07/2020 23:54

God no.
If the first kiss doesn’t make you want to rip his and your clothes off then what is the point?
And as for training someone to kiss you in a way you like ..........

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LethargicLumpOfLockdownLard · 05/07/2020 23:55

@backseatcookers

Incompatible kissing styles soon turns into the ick... and as well all know, the ick is an unstoppable force.

This.
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namechange12a · 05/07/2020 23:58

Honestly it was the stuff of nightmares. In between my gum and tongue on one side of my mouth. I can still feel it, like it's haunting me.

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CornishTiger · 05/07/2020 23:58

I can’t even describe how an ex made me feel when he kissed me. You have to have that as staring point.

One more chance OP. He might have been nervous. Then you’ll know.

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treefrograbbit · 05/07/2020 23:59

I'm married to bad kisser 🙈 there were so many other things that I've just had to let that slide.

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DaisyRaisin · 06/07/2020 00:02

Funnily enough my two favourite things about my husband were his kissing style and his voice, and they were enough for me to stick around to see everything else that I love.... If he was a bad kisser i wouldn't be here .

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StormBaby · 06/07/2020 00:09

I went on a blind date set up by a friend, kissed him, was utterly repulsed as he was terrible, yet somehow still ended up with years worth of cocklodging. World's longest pity fuck. My senses and literally my soul were screaming at me to get him out the entire time. Even my bladder hated him, I had constant urine infections. Confused He ended up running off with the friend who set us up, was the best day of my life.

I met my now DH 9 months later and we kissed on the train platform after a coffee date. There were fireworks and stars and my knees went weak. He still makes me wibbly five years later, even just thinking about kissing him.

That's what you are missing out on. Don't settle.

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StarlightLady · 06/07/2020 01:26

I agree that he can be retrained on the kissing. Communicate and tell him what you like.

It’s more important how he kisses elsewhere.

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Freshdaisy · 06/07/2020 07:19

Great responses, really like him just don’t want this to kill the vibe. Will give him one more chance, he was really nervous.
He’s 28 so not exactly young but still.
My ex was a great kisser so that just replays in my mind. Although saying that was only ever good in bed not great 😂🙈

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